I agree with Xavier
You will need to read Xavier's post to more properly understand the frustration he and I share. The following points in particular resonated with me:
I wish that nonbinary and trans identities/communities were kept separate but adjacent. Instead it's all become one big clusterfuck and no matter what side you're on you are inevitably "ostracizing" someone.
And:
I blame the Omnicause and the identity politics that have taken over the entire LGBT community. Identity is predicated not on lived experience or material conditions/needs but rather vague politics, purity tests, and virtue signaling.
The LGBT movement was formed to address real problems that are often literally matter of life and death. My partner, and other gay people, faced adversities and hostility, during the 1980s, that we can only begin to imagine today.
The LGBT 'community', and the political left (if, indeed, we still have a political left), has lost that clarity and direction. Collectively we became incapable of dealing in real politics - you know, the kind of politics that currently determines whether transgender people are legaly allowed to exist in society, whether they have any workplace rights or whether they're refused access to potentially life-saving healthcare.
Being transgender, in the sense of actually transitioning, has lasting consequences, and it comes with a ton of real problems and threats that are sometimes as existential as could be imagined. I think we're all aware of how precarious our lives are, even when things seem to be going well. Unlike people who use whatever non-binary pronouns, and get to be selective about where and when they express their identities, we don't have the option of walking away from whatever situation we find ourselves in.
The LGBT movement won its main victories with the Equality Act and the Gender Recognition Act, but we still desperately need to educate ourselves about what the law actually says, how to assert those rights, and how to deal with situations where other pretexts are used to discriminate against us. We should be discussing the occasional efforts by lobby groups to have the Equality Act 're-interpreted', which is how discrimination would potentially be made legal in Britain.
We should be taking the Transgender Day of Remembrance more seriously, by looking into the reasons so many transgender people die young, and hopefully doing something about that.
Instead, I've seen countless LGBT meetings - because they are too inclusive - get railroaded into self-indulgent discussions around the comparatively trivial personal issues of privileged 'allies', which, in my opinion, had almost nothing to do with LGBT matters. I've seen the Transgender Day of Remembrance get a cursory mention, in those same meetings, as a mere token of acceptance. A small handful of us achieve, in the space of a few hours of honest discussion in a pub, more than the larger group do in an entire year.